Honoring Self, Life, and Others

May 29, 2026

by Tara Ray

As we head toward busy summer months filled with graduations, family vacations, home projects and more, I find myself reflecting on something I’ve often struggled with: prioritizing myself! It's easy for me to get caught up in the needs of my family, my work, and all the to-do’s I think I “should” do. But I’ve learned that taking time for myself is incredibly important. I’m not talking about pampering myself with spa days or indulging in my favorite treats (although those are nice!). This is about recognizing my needs and making sure they're met first before I tend to anything or anyone else.

I certainly was not raised to put myself first. In fact, self-sacrifice was honored and glorified in my family! However, I find that proper self-care first allows me to be more emotionally stable, more productive and to have more joy in my life! It seems counterintuitive to think that putting my needs first can have this effect. But when I'm well-rested, nourished, and mentally recharged, I can tackle my tasks with energy and focus, and the stresses of the day have less impact on me while ignoring my well-being produces to burnout, disengagement and a stress. By setting aside time for activities that rejuvenate me, whether it's a quiet coffee on the porch, a workout, or reading a good book, I enhance my ability to concentrate, efficiently manage my to-do list and handle the challenging moments in my day. In short, a healthier me is a more productive and steadier me.

When I prioritize my well-being, I'm also sending myself a powerful message: I matter. This fosters a positive mindset and a deeper connection with myself, which spills over into every aspect of my life. I find that I'm more patient, compassionate, and resilient, making it easier to navigate challenges in all aspects of my life – maybe not always with a smile, but with less reactivity.

The key to achieving this is to start small – maybe it's setting aside ten minutes a day for quiet reflection or taking a walk and listening to the birds. However you begin, self-care is a continuous journey, not a one-time event. And as we invest in ourselves, we'll notice the effects – a brighter outlook and a life that's joyful.

For Further Reading:

Koole, J., Conscious Assembly Workbook,, 2005, Deer Tribe Metis Medicine Society, p40.

Thunder Strikes with Jan Orsi, Song of the Deer, 1999, Prizm Productions, pp187-199, 207-209.

Linden Lodge Work Day

Join us for a fun work day at Linden Lodge on Sunday, May 30, 2026 from 9:30 AM to early afternoon followed by a lunch. This is a wonderful opportunity to gather in community, spend time outdoors and lend a helping hand in caring for the land that supports us when we do purification lodge ceremonies.

Please bring work gloves, work shoes, water, bug spray, sunscreen, and ajoyful heart.

We will be rebuilding the Purification Lodge in Linden. Tasks are divided up to suit skills and the physical needs of those present so that the day can be completed with ease and FUN! A feast and fellowship time will follow. Your willingness to show up is deeply appreciated and it helps keep this special place thriving for all to enjoy. RSVP Tara Hawk Dives Deeply

Shamanism for the Fifth World

Shamanism for the Fifth World Session 4 in person on Saturday, May 30, 9am-7pm EST features the An Experiential Day: Primary Medicine Tools of the Path, Bundle Making, and a Participation in a Purification Lodge. Don’t miss this opportunity to be with Debbie Mast, RN MSN is a Lodge Leader and an A-Roadperson. She is a qualified instructor for all years of Red Lodge and Bravo White Lodge, and a certified Healing Paradigm Trainer. She is the founder of 3 Arrows, and the Women's Hoop, a ceremonial program for women now in its 34th year. Register NOW.

39th Eagle Dance Ceremony Weekend

The Eagle Dance is our annual community celebration of life. As we dance to the Tree of Life, we renew our connection to Grandmother Earth and all her children, asking Spirit to guide our lives in the coming year. Our collective prayers contribute to healing the many challenges facing our planet at this time.The ceremony takes place on our ceremonial land outside Grand Rapids, in northwest Michigan. Tent and trailer camping sites are available. The Dance concludes with a catered feast. A complete Information packet, including specific supplies needed by each dancer, will be sent upon receipt of your registration. Eagle Dance is August 7-9, and the week prior is Vision Quest & Ceremony on August 1-7. Contact Debbie atFlowering Tree Lodge for more information and registration.